http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/feed.rss Happiness, laughter, humor, a lighthearted sense of being - all of these are an important part of a well-balanced breakfast en-us http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/10166.php How would you like to have at least an extra hour in your day just for yourself so that you can have more fun? Well you can you know, you just have to do the following consistently and you'll free up your time so that you can enjoy more of your life. Look After Yourself First. Exercise regularly and eat healthily. Do the right thing by yourself and you'll have heaps of energy, be motivated,more productive and happier. Surround Yourself with Positivity. Circulate with positive people http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/10483.php Smile - A Look at False Happiness. Smile. You'll make your brain wonder what your face is up to. Have you ever seen a poster featuring that old saying "Smile, everyone w i ll wonder what you're up to? Where I grew up there was a version of that poster hanging in our laundry room that had Garfield on it, his bi g cat grin. was always pretty humorous. But no matter how I tried I couldn't force myself to. smile all the time. I felt like a moron trying to walk around with a grin o n my face for no reason. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/1185.php Dont Let Life Happen to You. Don't Let Life Happen To You. It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live. - Marcus Aurelius (121-80 ad, Roman Emperor, Philosopher) It's hard to believe that we are nearing the end of another year. As I write this, snow is falling in Colorado, the makings of a fantastic Thanksgiving dinner are in the kitchen, and our newspapers are filled with holiday ads. 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In any of these cases to a lesser or greater degree the emotional part of your brain has produced a questionable response or perhaps a response that you may have regretted later http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/15609.php Create a Balanced Lifestyle and Begin Living a Happier, Healthier and Enriched Life. Are you living a balanced life? Many people are not. Their lives are horribly out of balance and their quality of life is being severely compromised as a result. Some people do not even know what a balanced life looks like or how having one will improve their sense of well-being and inner happiness. They have become so stuck within their imbalanced lifestyle that they are not aware of how grave their situation is until a major crisis occurs and they are forced to take a good look at the choices they have been making http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/1626.php The Life Path is determined by the sum that is arrived at after reducing your birth date by adding digits together. 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A merry heart doeth good like a medicine; but a broken spirit drieth the bones. - Proverbs 17:22. Feeling stressed out, angry or sad? Dread going to work? Try this: Open your mouth as wide as you can, bug out your eyes, stick out your tongue, bring your hands up like the claws of a lion, then erupt in a mighty roar of hearty laughter. Or this: Sitting down, pretend you're on a roller coaster approaching the top of the hill http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/20388.php Achieving a level of personal happiness previously unknown is closer than you think. Much closer. But first, it's important to stay in touch with the present. Stay in touch with the present? I'm thinking?I'm already IN the present! "Well, certainly we all are in the present, since there is nowhere else to be, but that doesn't mean our thoughts are in the present. And therein lay the challenges to our own personal happiness. We as humans are the rarest of all species in that not only can we think, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/20537.php Guess Who Else Has a Problem With Confidence? When I tell you what I heard you'll be able to laugh at what you believe is your own lack of confidence. I couldn't believe it. Sunday, in a queue, in my local food-store an Olympic athlete stood behind me, chatting to another Olympic athlete. I looked at the contents of my shopping cart and wondered, which item I could get them to autograph! That is until I overheard them talking? You see, I thought only you and me suffered from confidence problems http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/20608.php We are a pleasure seeking society. Most of us spend our energy seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. We hope that by doing this, we will feel happy. Yet deep, abiding happiness and joy elude so many people. There is a huge difference between happiness and pleasure. 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It is often associated with depth and stability http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/21472.php Eleven Keys to Success and Happiness. 1. Mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend and tell them how much you enjoyed them once and that you wish them peace. 2. Dismiss Suspicion. Take a risk of getting hurt and replace that suspicion with Trust. 3. Write a Love Letter. I don't mean a mushy one. Write someone and tell them how much you appreciate them in your life and the joy they brought you at your last meeting. Do this daily. 4. Keep a promise. It's never to late to say?I forgot. If you said you would do something http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/21554.php We store them in the remotest part of our brain, in the deepest chambers of our hearts.We have them in our extensive database of memories. Some are so close to the heart, it brings out tears at the slightest provocation. Others may feel anger, very deep resentments and may exhibit anti-social or antagonistic behaviours. 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When action is followed by rest, when initiative is followed by reflection, and when willful intent is followed by utter surrender, then you are following a path of optimum power http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/2237.php Getting To The Root Of Unhappiness. Many people live in clutter, emotionally eat themselves into overweight, live in debt, hate their jobs and otherwise live unhappy lives, unable and seemingly unwilling to change. Why? What do these have in common? What is the core issue? Fear, or rather an absence of love. Fear, and not hate, is the "dark side "or opposite/absence of love, the way darkness is the opposite/absence of light. Whether your self image is controlled by unhealthy or uncontrolled overweight or fanatic perfection http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/22406.php The seeds you sow determine the crop you reap. This is pretty common knowledge. Knowledge, unfortunately, is only productive in its application, not in its accumulation or ownership. 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"Nathaniel Brandon, one of the most notable psychologists on self-esteem put it nicely: There is no value-judgment more important to man-no factor more decisive in his psychological development & motivation than the estimate he passes on himself. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/22484.php Like enough of the noise awready! Geesh, people? No, I'm not talking about the sometimes nearly overwhelming noise pollution that goes hand in hand with living in a big city. Traffic sounds, horns, sirens, airplanes, construction noises. I'm not even referring to the eardrum-shattering volume of the concert and bar bands? or the door-vibrating music coming from our kid's rooms. Not even the irritating boom bass enlarging the size of the cracks on the car's windshield next to us at the stoplight. Yeah, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/22489.php Most people don't even know they're doing it. Throughout the course of normal conversation, they bombard themselves with negative self-talk. 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Every disease or ailment, whether it be cancer, diabetes, arthritis, high blood pressure or something else, has a series of warning signs. In ever case, when we experience an abnormality, we tend to move quickly to do something to get back to normal. Our physical feelings tell us when we're well, and they also tell us when we're not well. If we want to live a long and healthy life we had better pay attention to our physical feelings. 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But the best thing you can do is raise your head and break the cycle of violence in your life "It seems to me that "break the cycle "has to do with some type of horrific traumatizing event that may have been re-occurring for many years http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/24291.php Couple issues such as spirituality and sexuality rank higher than financial reasons as the most affected items of a fumbling relationship. When it comes the moment to point out why a couple needs more intimate vigor, two wrongly things are sure to happen: Women are always blamed, and if both recognize that it's a male matter, also women blame themselves. Their consequent silent follows a behavior that will never end the cycle if there is no communication and willingness to solve it. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/24436.php Too many of us seem to think that there should be 24-7 happiness in our life, so when there is problems in a marriage the temptation for affairs and divorce is there. 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Cold air slips through the cracks in my doorway and around my windows. My cats lie curled up in balls; asleep on plump pillows. They hibernate most days now and only awaken from their dreamy slumbers for bites of kibble. They are unaware of our troops in the Middle East or our economy problems here at home. What sustains you during tough times? Do you have a network of support http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25442.php Hugs have a long and honorable tradition, going back to the day the caveman first squeezed his wife and discovered that no ketchup squeezed out. Since then, he found that his wife makes an awesome teddy bear, and he can always squeeze a rhinoceros when he wants ketchup for his hotdog (which gave him the necessary motivation to go hunting when his wife asked him to) Hugs remain an important part of our daily happiness, but some cultures raise better huggers. 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In what areas of your life would you like to achieve greater success? State-of-mind (attitude towards life and work) absolutely affects your performance and your outcomes. People who stay in jobs they hate, or relationships and situations in which they are chronically unhappy are not only missing out on the joy life has to offer, but are literally putting their health at risk at the same time. When coaching clients I ask them to do a rough pre-assessment: http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25626.php Life Management Skills for Greater Happiness. Circumstances are the rulers of the weak; they are but the instruments of the wise. "- Samuel Lover. One of the most common complaints people have these days is that their plate is fuller than full. The demands of modern life often leaves some people feeling dragged out and inadequate. Many people know intellectually that they can't give 100% to everything, yet still they have unreasonable expectations for themselves. As a result "something's gotta give, "and usually http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25627.php What is Happiness and How to Achieve It? True happiness is such a rare commodity that the whole of the world is continuously seeking it and failing to find it. All the people, who we consider to be the best in their fields, are seeking it too and failing to acquire it. The most brilliant of the scientists, the most gifted of artists, the most talented of poets and authors, the wealthiest businessmen, the most powerful rulers, the greatest achievers in any field - all of them have been striving for it all their lives and failed to have it http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25692.php When we choose to move beyond the boundaries of the ego, we choose to step into a different world. We find ourselves above the matrix of conceived causality, alive on a unique plane of experience. Here, much to our amazement, everything happens by itself. Grace, or effortless effort, now define our actions. Our egoic self is characterized by its neediness. Need arises as an urge to survive. It is, in fact, a pro-survival urge that emanates from the ego. The ego thrives on its own insecurities, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25719.php If You Can Dream It you Can Do It! Confuscious, the Chinese Philospher is quoted as saying: I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand. In other words, it is in the 'doing 'that we appreciate and learn the meaning of an action or activity, not in thinking or day dreaming about it. Many teens daydream often about the things they would like to do. Do you? If you can 'dream, you can 'do. You need to maintain a positive 'can do 'attitude and like many successful people have done, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25722.php You are Where You are Because You Decided to be There. The decisions we make everyday have a big impact on where we are in life, both spiritually and physically. Often these decisions are the 'safe 'choices. People don't often venture too far off from familiar paths or too far out of their comfort zones and challenge themselves. As Aristotle the great Greek philosopher said, Man perpetuates the familiar, and especially teens. The obvious reason not wanting to appear different than their friends http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25742.php Happiness Is A State Of Mind, Im Happy. I Think! You have the power to attract and repel anything in life you want! It's all in your hands. Contentment, happiness, and joy are right around the corner. Hang in here with me; some of this is going to go against the grain of previous thinking. The Moment Of Truth! Regardless of whom you are, you are unique, you are special, and you are a wonderful person. Yet, certain people may not think so. if you feel that they react negatively and offensively to many things that you say and do http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25816.php It's a beautiful spring day in Beverly Hills, California. I'm looking out my window at elm trees in full leaf and roses in full bloom, and thinking about the people who helped me get where I am today. Mark Johnson was the kind of guy some people love to hate. He was always in a great mood and always had something positive to say. When he saw you, he enthusiastically boomed, Hello, my friend! "When you asked him how he was, he nearly shouted, I'm on top of the world! "I was sometimes a little embarrassed by his noisy exuberance http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25882.php Whats Sex Got To Do With It? Who is the happiest person in America? USA Today featured Happiest Person in a cover story in its USA Weekend magazine. Bad news: it's not you. Nor is it me. Just how did they find Happiest Person and determine that he is indeed the happiest person in America? The USA Today research team appears to have used an elegantly simple three-step process. First, they identified "the world's leading authority on happiness "Martin Seligman http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/25885.php What if I told you that you have the ability to decide if you are happy or not. You would probably say that I'm crazy. 1. I'm not crazy and 2. Happiness is a choice. You can't depend on someone else to make you happy. That is a lesson I learned early on in my marriage. I realized that I couldn't rely on my husband as my source of happiness. I learned that my happiness depended on me and not my husband's actions. I learned that you have to choose to be happy. You can choose your emotions. True happiness comes from within http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26063.php Relationships and the Law of Attraction. This question and answer article was done by Gizelle River, Virtual Administrator and Writer. Visit her website. g: Hi Michael. Today's topic is relationships. In your hundreds of seminars and TeleClasses, what are people saying about their relationships or lack of them? What kind of complaints do you most often hear? m: I'd like to start by saying that the amount of people on our planet who are single continue to surprise me. Having said that, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26068.php Is there any necessary connection between our actions and the happiness of others? Disregarding for a moment the murkiness of the definitions of "actions "in philosophical literature - two types of answers were hitherto provided. Sentient Beings (referred to, in this essay, as "Humans "or "persons "seem either to limit each other - or to enhance each other's actions. Mutual limitation is, for instance, evident in game theory. It deals with decision outcomes when all the rational "players http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26540.php 5 Keys to Understanding Why Your Life (probably) Sucks! # 2. In Key Reason # 1 we looked at how you are working with outdated beliefs. Reason # 2 gives a clue as to why that might be so. Your Capability has outstripped your Cope-ability. Have you ever been in a situation where you think to yourself "I just can't cope any more "Psychologists 'and psychiatrists 'waiting rooms are full of such people for whom life has become too much. That is because we choose to live at a level of awareness below that of which we are capable http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26541.php 5 Keys to Understanding Why Your Life (probably) Sucks! # 3. The outcome of Reason # 2 is that you become your own worst enemy. That, in turn, leads on to Reason # 3 where. You place more value on doing than being. If you are at war with yourself, chances are you don't like yourself very much. How many other people who call you to account, who expect more of you than what you achieve are on your best friends list? That fact is as true in your relationship with yourself as it is in your relationships with other people http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26542.php 5 Keys to Understanding Why Your Life (probably) Sucks # 4. We are in constant competition. If we take evolution seriously, then the reason why we lasted this long (individually and as a race) stems from the fact we have adopted a survivor mentality. Either consciously or unconsciously we subscribe to the "survival of the fittest "mentality. That means we see everyone and everything else as potential competitors. Whether the competition is about which political or religious system offers the best lifestyle or who has right of way in merging traffic http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26630.php Using a Personal Journal to Discover a Life Filled with Happiness. Author Tristine Rainer wrote "Happiness within a diary has less to do with the events you encounter in life than with the way you experience the process of living. "Because a diary mirrors how you perceive and deal with events, it can be used for developing the capacity to more fully experience joy. Do you use your journal only for problem-solving, dark days, sorrowful feelings, or depressive thoughts? If so, why not start recording the happiness's as well http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26709.php I am sure it is safe to say that each of us has had times in our lives when we had hopes, anticipation, expectations and events where we desired a certain outcome. I am sure it is equally safe to say that when any of them did not turn out the way we had wished, we felt some measure of pain, disappointment, anger, sadness, or turmoil. Can you relate? The purpose of this article is to change that. Just as alchemy can turn base metal into gold, you will soon learn how to turn your suffering into golden freedom from inner anguish http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/26946.php I assume you want to be happier. Searching for greater happiness is a wonderful thing whatever level of happiness you are currently at. It could be that you are already enjoying life and just searching for a new idea, or it could be that you have felt negative towards life or the experiences life has dealt you. If you feel in anyway negative about life I would like to share something with you. It is human nature to take a look at the darker side of life. I have often dwelt on this side http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/27257.php a difficult transition brings tough but necessary growing pains. As we saw on September 11, 2001, change can also be tragic, devastating, and senseless. Yet we slowly heal without forgetting the special people lost or the value they brought to our lives. In his book, Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes "William Bridges pointed out that the outer forms of one's life can change instantly. 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"Sometimes people say they want love, success or wealth, but when asked why, they think for a moment and then say because these things would make them happy. Usually people desire health above all else but only when they feel that it is threatened. People rarely think about health when they are young http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/28302.php You'd be surprised to know that most of the cherished things in life are almost at arm length and not too expensive either. Yet we tend to think everything needs to be hard, expensive and complicated. You can be Healthy. Physical health is not about medicine and drugs or even health insurance. It's basically about a simple diet and an appropriate exercise routine. The ideal diet consists of fruits vegetable and grains. This simple regime guarantees a younger appearance, as well as a longer, and overall better life http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/29163.php Letting Go of Anger and Awaken to Lifes Grand Aventures. 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Now I realize there are days when you are not feeling well, maybe there's been a serious problem you are facing or there are any number of things that nay not be pleasant in your life. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/29282.php When I left England in 2000 there did not seem to be much happiness around. People in modern western society tend to be self focused to the extreme, prone to criticise rather than support or applaud, and with little time or inclination to devote to others. Relationships can be a battleground rather than a haven of mutual support. Thinking about it now, I did not know anyone who I could say was really happy. I was acquainted with a few who might have been in a state of happiness, but I did not know them well enough to be sure http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/2937.php You can be as happy as you want whenever you want. Zen masters have proven this - all you have to do is just "be "with whatever you have right now. Yeah, I know. 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She did quite well in school http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/30305.php Only you can call me into aliveness. Each time you try to understand and because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings, very small wings, very feeble wings, but wings. With your sensitivity and sympathy, and your power of understanding, you can breathe life into me. ~ Charles C. Finn. Life is our brief precious time to feel-to experience love, laughter, and wonder-to design and contribute our unique creations and expressions of who we are and what we want to leave behind. I paused to think about this gift of life http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/30889.php Things To Do To Beat The Blues. As moms we all tend to get the blues, we are always running here and running there. It is very important to take time for you! 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Everyone has a unique view point, especially where emotion is concerned. But, nonetheless, I like my outlook on happiness. It helps me to see that I am the creator of my own thoughts and state of mind http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/31863.php When you're in love your eyes and your face light up. And so do four tiny portions of your brain. Falling in love "is a brain condition! Neurobiologists Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki of University College in London used fMRI brain scans to peer into the brains of college students in the throes of that crazed, can't-think-of-anything-else "stage of early romantic love. When the subjects were shown photographs of their sweethearts, the fMRI images showed that four parts of their brains "lit up. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/3257.php How Our Sensory Responses to Aromas Create Happy Homes. Our sense of smell elicits strong emotional reactions and triggers powerful memories, whether we're consciously aware of it or not. Scents and Feelings. 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Like many dictionary definitions, this may be accurate, but needs to be more specific to be of practical use. How do you experience this "state of well-being? One of the best practical definitions of happiness that I have come across is provided by Charles Haanel in his classic work "The Master Key System. According to Haanel, there are only three things that can be desired in the "world without. They are health, wealth http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/33687.php Reflect on your present blessings of which every man has many, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. Charles Dickens. We all have many blessings. If you made a list of all the things you could be thankful for, the list would undoubtedly be longer than your misfortunes. Making a list of all your blessings is a great exercise to go through especially when you are feeling down or are feeling like everything is going against you! Accept whatever your misfortune is and move on. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/33778.php what are the conditions that render it desirable, if not necessary, and what is its essential purpose? Life is a desire to live, and better still a desire to live happily. As we strive to satisfy this desire, we encounter obstacles that complicate or frustrate our efforts. This complication or frustration amounts to suffering because it stands in the way of satisfaction. Wisdom is designed to help us cope with this suffering. It is an adaptive product of reason in the face of tough circumstances. Thanks to it http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/33780.php Since wisdom is the art of coping with suffering, it starts with a willingness to tackle it head-on: a) Such is the harshness of our condition that we suffer, sometimes greatly or worse, insuperably. b) Such is the richness of our nature that we can learn to live happily, or at least serenely, within the limits of this condition. This entails us either pursuing goals that are not only desirable or honorable, but also attainable, or resigning ourselves to the inevitable. Admittedly, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/33865.php We are living in an era, where relations 'management is at its low. If the IT or ITES/BPO industry is promoting relations among the employees?the short duration of relations is also a gift of it. There are numerous cases of divorces, I have witnessed in last couple of years, wherein couples decided to separate within one year of marriage. Why so? It is very easy to say, I love you "to people around you but how many of us really understand the meaning, probably, no one. Recently http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34051.php but that's just a way to stop thinking about the tougher issues. What is your relationship to money, for example, and how do you use this most powerful of worldly tools? Maybe you see that chasing after money for its own sake is destructive, but isn't it equally damaging to have such a powerful instrument in your hands while pretending it has no importance? Money Is Important. Some say that money isn't important to them, but this isn't true. The truth is they don't see the importance. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34098.php Can Existential Therapy Give You a Sense of Wellbeing? My journey to becoming a therapist began with a desire to develop greater significance in my life and improve the quality of my relationships. Having worked as an organisational psychologist for many years, my work increasingly involved coaching senior managers in the art of managing their organisations. These sessions revealed that, contrary to my expectations, the help they required was related to more personal aspects of their lives outside of work. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34110.php Looking In The Eyes Of Happiness. From what you see around you in your daily lives, happiness may appear an illusory state of existence. Do you see true happiness in the lives of those who pass through your world each day? Do you see, and feel, true happiness in your own life, and the lives of your immediate family? Or in your work colleagues, or fellow commuters? The answer, in many cases, will be "no, I don't "Why is that? Is it because so many people have so many reasons to be unhappy? Or is it, maybe, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34122.php WE count the broken lyres that rest. Where the sweet wailing singers slumber, But o'er their silent sister's breast. The wild-flowers who will stoop to number? A few can touch the magic string, And noisy Fame is proud to win them: Alas for those that never sing, But die with all their music in them! Nay, grieve not for the dead alone. Whose song has told their hearts 'sad story,--. Weep for the voiceless, who have known. The cross without the crown of glory! Not where Leucadian breezes sweep. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34151.php Steven Arthur Mills slapped the marble desk in front of Roseville High School's science class with a yardstick. All eyes suddenly fastened on him. He sensed that we were getting bored with learning, and he wasn't about to let that happen. Black-framed glasses highlighted my uncle's hearty face. Wispy white hair topped his head. He was mild-mannered and excessively polite, but when teaching, he was a wild-eyed scientist, a natural showman, who taught in dramatic fashion with experiments, explosions, and flair http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34300.php Living a Balanced Life - The Real Juggling Act. I just read an installment from another self-improvement course that states that celebrities are unhappy because they don't have gratitude for what they have. I disagree. Have you ever had a time when you were making a good living, lived in a nice place, drove a nice car, took trips, had everything you needed and more? and yet you were still unhappy? It wasn't that you were ungrateful for what you had, just something seemed wrong. You weren't fulfilled http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34332.php Happiness - A Matter of Focus. Imagine for a moment you have been given a task. That task is to count the number of times five basketballs are passed between a group of people who are running around each other. Assuming that the exercise requires your full concentration, what is the chance that you would notice a gorilla walk right into the middle of the group, beat it's chest and then walk away again? Should be obvious right? Well according to a study conducted at Harvard university, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/34335.php Happiness - Work Now or Later? Long-term success and happiness follows hand-in-hand with strength of character. As I mention in my book, Fast Track Your Success and Happiness, If we want to achieve a certain goal, we simply must do things that are less pleasant now than other alternatives have the potential to be. For example, if John wants to get a degree, he has to study for his exams, and not bliss out at the beach. In order to become a person who manifests health, wealth, success, education etc in our lives http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/35004.php The year is almost half over. Many of us are taking the time to reflect, to imagine new dreams and to revise our goals. Yet, as we engage in these activities, the shadows of unachieved goals and failed dreams continue to follow us. Wouldn't it be great if we could discover a magical way that would help to achieve both our personal and professional happiness and banish those shadows? A colleague and I asked this very question over a year ago and spent the last 12 months researching how successful people use their imagination to overcome life's obstacles and stay happy http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/35172.php Change 1 Thing Per Month - Making it Great One Step at a Time. So you're stuck in a rut, bored with how your life is, and you can't think of how to get through this period. Einstein defined insanity as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. "So stop being insane?and try something new. Now I'm not saying you totally change everything you do, and everything you're about. I'm recommending you take baby steps, and change 1 thing a month. Try this: Start getting up an hour earlier every day for 30 days http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/35602.php 10 Fun Ways To Live An Enchanted Life Today! I am often asked how I can live the way I do. Who pays me to be a real-life Merlin? 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If this is truly a desirable destination for you then you are most likely feeling more happy as you see yourself there http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/3595.php the pursuit of happiness is a god-given right and Americans have a document to prove it. But I wonder why the Founding Fathers deliberately phrased it, the pursuit of happiness 'as if to say - -- happiness in itself cannot be granted because it was, and still remains, tied to materialism. In the "pursuit "of happiness, it is each person's own definition: riches, health, religion, etc. Take, as an example, the pessimist and optimist. If anything bad happens, the pessimist believes it will not last long but will surely undermine his life http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/36158.php So many people overwork themselves literary in the quest for happiness. Many claim that they will truly be happy when they become famous, earn a degree, become rich etc? However, what happens when the desire goal is attain? Nothing! They get excited for a second or two and go back to living miserably until, something good happens again and who knows how long that will take. I do not know about you but, to me it is ridiculous. Have you seen the headline news of the rich and famous that dwell their sorrows on drugs http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/37181.php it might feel great to win the lottery. Money, houses, travel - these are wonderful, but not enough by themselves. You need the right frame of mind to fully enjoy life. You need the attitude of gratitude. Be Grateful. Life is better when you feel blessed, when you can look around and say "Thank you, God. Religious or not, when you see life as a wonderful gift, your experience is a richer one than any amount of money can provide. Imagine going through life like you're a child, and every morning is Christmas http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/37241.php Are You Doing What You Love? Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. - -Albert Schweitzer (1875 - 1965) We are busier than we have ever been, working long hours and feeling under more and more pressure. How do you spend your days? For many people work and pleasure are seen as separate, with work being a chore that has to be done to pay the bills. It doesn't always have to be like that. Although we don't have to love everything we do http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/37348.php Have you ever had one of those days where you just wish you were in a better mood? Perhaps you tried to shift your state of mind to something better but struggled to achieve it. Sometimes we get stuck in our own 'stinking thinking 'and forget how easy it is to feel happier, so here are seven simple ways to lift your mood that many people have found useful and some of them may surprise you! 1. Go for a walk. Most folk know that going for a short daily walk is one of the best forms of exercise. If you can http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/37508.php 10 Ways to Bring Meaning to Your Life. My life always appears to be so hectic. It's as if I purposely overload myself with more things than I could possibly ever accomplish. As I'm going to sleep I think about all the things I need to get done And when I'm awake during the day I think about all the things that need to get done. Take a shower, make coffee, eat breakfast, brush my teeth, go to work, etc. It's almost as if at the end of the day I can truly ask myself, where did the day go? http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/37928.php but this is just a process in our minds. In fact, this identification causes us to suffer. Your favorite basketball team loses, and you suffer as though YOU lost. Your car is damaged and it feels like YOU are hurt. Somebody attacks who they think you are, and it is as though they could actually reach inside and poke at your true self. Is there a way to escape this unecessary drama and pain? Perhaps, if you can see what you are not. Seeing this clearly can free you from much of the suffering that comes from identification http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/3840.php The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet. - James Oppenheim. Today is very special. Besides being your "un-birthday "it's the first day of the rest of your life. We've all heard that one. We acknowledge the wisdom and move on - -- checking our watches and calendars to see how long before the "good stuff "starts happening. Our impatience and anxiety prevent us from focusing our awareness on "now "As a result we never discover it's full potential or give ourselves permission to enjoy it http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/39847.php Why Its Good to Be Selfish. I started thinking about this topic during a discussion of "What You Wish You Knew Then "People were talking about the differences in their lives once they discovered that what makes them happy is just as important as what makes other people happy. It really is true. .if you are not happy, then it's likely that no one around you is happy. Sounds self-centered to some people, especially women, but it's not. And it is not even close to Gordon Gecko's philosophy of "Greed is good. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/40423.php Are You Chasing the Elusive Butterfly of Happiness? For many people happiness is an elusive butterfly in the garden of life. Imagine a young child in the garden on a summer day. The child sees a beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower. With eyes of wonder the child wants to see it close up, touch it, and hold it in their hands. The child goes towards the flower that the butterfly is resting on, with arms out stretched, only to find as he just gets in reach, the butterfly moves to another flower. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/40500.php Happiness and Keeping Ahead of the Joneses. Imagine that the Internal Revenue Service in your country claimed that you owe $ 1000 plus in tax arrears. You dispute this, and you challenge the tax people in court, but the court rules that they're right. Especially if you're a person of substantial means, you'd pay up with a shrug of the shoulders. Too bad, you'll comfort yourself, you can't win all the time! and you'll put the matter out of your mind fairly quickly. Now let's assume that instead of the government http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/40768.php Unhappy - Do We Have A Choice? Everyone is in the process of seeking greater happiness. We are each involved in the search for feeling good inside our bodies. What may come as a surprise is in the midst of a binge, anorexia, bulimia, or other addiction process, happiness is essentially at the core of what is being sought. The individual is experiencing some feeling of unease in their emotional state and physical body and is attempting to seek an alternative state of feeling better. There is no crime in wanting to feel better http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/40804.php in conjunction with their design and color schemes, create feelings that enhance our mood. They are a simple and sincere way to lift our spirits. The most beautiful flowers can bring a smile to someone face who has been sick or having a rough day. The presence of flowers has a profound impact on ones state of mind and emotions. Flowers trigger feelings of happiness and help us cope with anger and pain. They help us stay calm and relaxed. They can also help relieve stress. Imagine a beautiful flower http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/40826.php who specializes in quick tips on how to move your life ahead even faster, offers the following advice. First, make a choice that you are going to look for the positive in everything you do and expect positive things to come your way. Next, each day make a written list of all the things you are grateful for. Then, force yourself to laugh for at least 3 minutes straight each day, even though it will be a "fake "laugh. This puts you in a good mood that will carry over into the rest of the day. Next, http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/40833.php Quick Tips On Staying Positive In A Negative World. Looking for a way to stay positive in a negative world? Edward W. Smith, motivational speaker, author and TV show host, who specializes in quick tips on how to move your life ahead even faster, offers the following advice. First, decide that you are going to be positive, and look for the positive around you, regardless of what others say or do. Start and end each day by flooding yourself with positive affirmations, thoughts and information. http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/41938.php Is your life really the life you want? Quickly determine how great your life is by answering "Yes "or "No "to the following questions. Even if you already know how great your life is, do you know what you can change to make it better? Instructions: Each question has a "Yes "or "No "answer. Yes "means you agree with the question. No "means you disagree with the question. Important: If you do not agree with the question completely, mark your answer "No. Questions: Do you wake-up in the morning without an alarm http://www.happiness.dovada.net.au/42134.php 7 Keys to a Happy Life. 1. Do not act in order to receive a payoff. This is what is causing much of our discomfort as individuals and a society. 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